Happy Valentines Everyone!
Also I believe it's the 3rd anniversary on this blog! I would like to thank Jennifer and Erin for all there contributions to this blog and the design. Also Mei-Mei, Sabrina, Julie, Julia and all of our wonderful guest writers!! We rock One Worlders!!
Recently, someone asked me if it was hard being adopted. I said "no," and I started to think about the question a little more in depth. I think "odd" is how I'd explain it. I love my life here in the U.S. I honestly couldn't imagine it any other way, I feel lucky. But on the other hand, I feel when I tell people "I don't know my birth parents" I realize how morose that can sound to people. Not knowing your blood line or the first people to see you come into this world, who you lived in and who cared for you in a short nine months, is a little sad. Now they say "you can't miss anything you never knew" which is true, but we adoptees all have that longing for knowing the missing pieces that make us up.
We see kids and parents together who look so much like each other, but when they see us with our parents they are a little shocked if they don't know we're adopted, or when the women behind the register asks if you're paying together with the Asian women in front of you, and your mom/dad is right there. It's those kind of things that sometimes makes us feel a little more different than others at times. Different is okay, because everyone's different, adoption makes us unique yes. Although, it's odd to not know a life you'll never have, or to ever know truly about your biology.
Personally, I feel both glad and a little sad to be adopted. I have a great life, I have a great family wonderful friends and so many opportunities here. Then again, I also have a mom and dad I don't know and a life I'll never have. That's okay for the most part. I realize we adoptees are all different with our feeling about it. Some never look back and would rather just not wonder, and think "Life here is what I have, and what I want." While some want to know and think "I'm thankful for my life here, but there is this huge part of me that I feel I was deprived of from knowing." Those are both okay views. Just remember to try not over think the adoption thing (which I have done) and try to live in the moment. I realize the most important day is today, so we have to keep living life one day, minute, even second at a time, because anything can change. We all know that because our lives did change dramatically when we were adopted. One choice can have a huge impact on us.
Moving on, I hope this Valentines day you spent with your family, loving and caring about them. nothing's more important than family love. So have a wonderful Valentines day.