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FOUNDED BY A GROUP OF EIGHT, YOUR ONE WORLD HOSTS ERIN, ANGELA GEE, JAZZ, JEANNETTE LOAKMAN, JENNIFER BAO YU 'PRECIOUS JADE' JUE-STEUCK, DR. MEI-MEI AKWAI ELLERMAN, AND SABRINA SPAN 3 CONTINENTS and REPRESENT 6 GENERATIONS of CHINESE ADOPTEES. (scroll down for more details)

They Think I'm Chinese!

They Think I'm Chinese!
[LEFT] "ON ME PRENDS POUR UNE CHINOISE" ("They Think I'm Chinese!") - a Film by Nicole Giguère & "CHINEAS GIRLS" art from IRELAND by Lin Ye, age 4 [RIGHT]

Thursday, August 14, 2014

My Tribute to Robin Williams



He gave his all to make others laugh, reflect, empathize, while fighting daily to simply survive the constant attack of his demons. In the end, he triumphed, leaving an unforgettable legacy, choosing to slip away when surviving unbearable.

Behind the twinkling eyes, 
Tears constantly flowed unseen,
The infectious smile 
Hid depths of sadness 
That swathed him in veils 
From which there was no escape.
At times outrageous, flying high,
Seemingly omnipotent,
His inner self vulnerable, 
Insecure, constantly on the run.
He embodied dozens of roles, 
In pursuit perhaps of his true identity.
Tears and laughter, 
Melancholy and compassion,
Complexity and fragility. 
Just words or the core 
Of a beloved yet misunderstood 
Man/child genius?
Outwardly brilliant, larger than life,
Inwardly, lost, aching, searching.
At last, released from all earthly bonds, 
He is at peace,
A shimmering light 
Among a galaxy of stars.

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Sometimes I Fear the Page (On Overcoming Fears)









Sometimes I fear the page, that vast, empty pregnant space. 
Why do I fear the emptiness?
Does it make me feel alone?
Or remind me of the vast and empty eternity of separateness that stretches, across galaxies for miles on end, the lost links to my family, my ancestry, my belonging, the stories that could have filled me with sustenance...if I had had a chance to hear them being told?

I don't want to fear the empty page.
That beautiful door swung right open,
holding its breath and hoping to be filled with the incandescent light of love,
inviting you, dear reader, to jump through to new frontiers of magic and wonder, a gentle giant in the night sky, stretching its arms across time and dipping its toes into eternity's seas.

What's so scary on the other side, my love?
So what if it's an empty space...
Maybe it's the empty space of solitude (not abandonment), 
the fullness of fresh potential,
that invites faith, courage and the love in us all
to walk, heads high, with dignity and grace.

To walk on,
through the loss.
Maybe you will be waiting for me 
on the other side of the door?
With outstretched hands, 
and smiling hearts.

I wait, and listen for you.
Always and forever.
Maybe we were all meant to fly,
through the window,
the door,
and into the frontiers of future-space,
asleep and alone no more.

Monday, August 11, 2014

In Love in France - L'Amour et le Baron Ben ("A Dog Abroad" Diary)



Dear One Worlders, Friends & Family,


I am in love...in France! His name is Ben (le chien), and isn't he beautiful? He's only 3. This past weekend we went to the market (the Saturday marché)...we found beautiful plump purple tomatoes, artichoke hearts (reminds me of the giant ones I shared with my cousin Stephanie near Notting Hill in London), rosy orange carrots, a box of fresh peaches, and of course, plenty of fromages (cheeses).



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Normally Ben walks sans leash, but in a market setting there are far too many temptations - including cheese, bread (like any true Francophone, Ben loves bread & cheese - his eyes grow large at the slightest whiff), other puppies, interesting people (possible contenders for a good sniff or a jolly and generous lick?), and other exciting goodies. 



Sometimes Ben cannot contain his excitement and lifts Jen straight off the ground, sending us both flying through the air when he lunges towards fellow four-pawed friends au marchéWith his shiny dark fur he gets hot v. quickly, so we made sure to give him regular sips from a water bottle today.

"A Dog Abroad: Monsieur Baron Ben-le-Chien in France Diaries"...(tbc).

Much Love, 
Jennifer

Friday, August 8, 2014

"Touching Home in China: In Search of Missing Girlhoods" by Melissa Ludtke




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Check it out, and learn how you can become involved in this exciting transmedia (book and film) project!

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Happy Summer!



"THE HARDEST BATTLE IS TO BE NOBODY BUT YOURSELF IN A WORLD, WHICH IS DOING ITS BEST, NIGHT AND DAY, TO MAKE YOU EVERYBODY ELSE."
- e.e. cummings


Dear One Worlders, Friends and Family,


Greetings from France! Hope you're enjoying some time off this summer. I'm in the process of making some healthy changes, and will share more in a bit (still getting settled in Europe).

Much Love,
Jennifer

Monday, July 7, 2014

Is It Racist to Ask People Where They Are From? [Article from the Atlantic Magazine]

Happy Summer everyone! Am about to go to Vermont for a few weeks and then plan to return to Europe both to do research in Denmark and Paris, and to write while I am in Tuscany for 5 five weeks.

Came across this article and thought that you might be interested in it. As adopted children, teens, adults, we are constantly asked, just based on our looks, especially if we don't look like our parents, "Where do you come from?" If we answer, "I am 'American,' or 'British,' 'Swedish,' 'Turkish,' 'Indian'" or wherever we were raised, almost invariably the person will persist and say, "But where are you really from?" For some it isn't a problem. I don't mind. Depending on who is asking I answer, "I am Italian!" or else, "I am Chinese!" or "I am American but Italian (or Chinese) at heart." Most often I simply respond, "I am a citizen of the world." For others, especially as the issue of identity can be very delicate, the above question may be upsetting and feel racist. Being judged or pigeon-holed just on the basis of the color of one's skin, the shape of one's eyes, is being blind to who one really is, inside. It can have little or nothing to do with one's actual culture, religion or lack thereof. On the other hand, we can feel deeply connected to our Chinese heritage and homeland, but it really is nobody's business unless we wish to discuss our personal feelings. Most often not with a complete stranger, or someone we have met for the first time.

At any rate, this article may generate an internal debate, or a discussion among your family, friends. Hope you enjoy it! [copy link and paste into your browser].

http://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2014/07/question-where-are-you-from-racist/373818/

Much love,
Mei-Mei


Saturday, June 28, 2014

For Jen

I just got back from Italy and wanted to share these photos with you!
Much love,
Jessie 


Pizza in Roma 


Small Canal in Venice 

Grand Canal

Getting lost in Venice 


Gelato :) 
























Monday, June 23, 2014

Ten Most Powerful Women in China Today [according to Time Magazine]


Gong Li

Really exciting to watch the individual videos of these ten amazing women, all from very different walks of life. Some, like Gong Li, are world famous; others though very influential, aren't well known outside of China. But this article will change that! To see the videos, copy and past the link in your browser.

http://time.com/2907424/makers-china-10-powerful-women/

The critically acclaimed MAKERS series goes to China

After its critical acclaim last year with the documentary MAKERS: 
Women Who Make America, AOL has taken its storytelling brand 
to China to highlight women whose accomplishments have shattered 
expectations and serve as an inspiration to their peers. The selection 
process was overseen in part by Yang Lan, a broadcast journalist 
often dubbed the “Oprah of China.”

Fu Ying
Li Yinhe, First female sexologist in China, Gong Li, Actor,  Fu Ying, 
Vice Minister of Foreign Affairs, Guo Jianmei, First public interest 
lawyer in China,   Li Yan, Short-track speed skating coach, Hu Shuli, 
Investigative journalist, Dong Mingzhu, Chairman and President, 
Gree Electric, Yang Liping, Dance artist, Laura Cha Shin May-lung, 
Former vice-chair of the China Securities Regulatory Commission, 
Yan Geling, Novelist and screenwriter.
Li Yan
Enjoy! 
Love,
Mei-Mei


Saturday, June 21, 2014

Take a Moment to Appreciate the World We Live in! (David Attenborough)



We are bombarded on all sides, radio, television, newspapers, internet, by bleak and depressing occurrences here at home around the globe. There are many ways to escape into a more positive space, by taking a walk in the woods, reading a riveting book, listening to our favorite music, dancing, meditating, or, in a matter of seconds, watching this brief, magical video.

David Attenborough is one of the world's foremost naturalists. He has a mesmerizing voice and an inspiring attitude towards life, nurtured by the beauty and unveiled secrets of the realms in which he has immersed himself decade after decade.

Enjoy!

http://www.wimp.com/wonderfulworld/

Love to all One Worlders and Happy Summer!

Mei-Mei [photographs by David Attenborough]



Thursday, June 19, 2014

New and Improved Everyday Feminism Relationship Course, Open to all



The first time this course was offered, over 200 people signed up. The impact was amazing, truly life-changing for so many. It has since been further streamlined and improved for greater effectiveness. Note that there are scholarship opportunities for those who cannot afford the $97. for this unique 4 month-long course.

Not matter how positive your relationship may be, it can become even better! And, if there are problems, ingrained patterns, communication issues, this is the course for you! Good luck.

http://everydayfeminism.com/relationship-course/?utm_source=website&utm_medium=ad&utm_content=RC-Course&utm_campaign=Home-RC-Ad

Just copy and paste link into your browser. There are now 750,000. followers of Everyday Feminism!

Much love,
Mei-Mei

Monday, June 16, 2014

A Day for Reflection, Fathers' Day

Great Pyrenees

I wrote this yesterday but didn't have a chance to post it.


Sunday, June 15th, 2014
Thinking of my two fathers. The one I never knew but have learned so much about over the past several years [was adopted at the age of 7 months], and "Daddy," who slipped away making only occasional appearances in my life after I turned six. He died when I was 16 and living in Europe. I last saw him when I was 14. 
  Daddy, the brilliant jazz muscian, who was the life of the party and whose sense of humor and repartees kept everyone in stitches. He gave me my first dog, Pyree, a Great Pyrenese. Before we knew it, we had 20! I spent many hours at my father’s side, washing and grooming our thoroughbreds for dog shows throughout New England. The large box of blue, red and yellow ribbons tucked away at the back of my bottom desk drawer are a reminder of the intoxicating wins. I can still evoke the smell of wet fur, the cacophony of hundreds of dogs barking with excitement, the stillness and sudden silence as we walked our chosen dogs around the ring...
Until just a few years ago my family had a stunning array of pets, dogs, cats, rabbits, squirrels, a pig, even tarantulas. Now that I am on my own, I travel too much to keep any two or four-footed companions. It would be unfair to them. 

  Daddy gave me my first camera, a German brand. I have been drawn to photography ever since. He surprised me on my 9th birthday with my first record player, a Grundig, still functional. Music is one of my great passions, classical more than jazz, though over the years I have come to appreciate the greats of the 30s, 40s and 50s.
     Two men who left their mark in mysterious ways, mostly positive. Nature, nurture... The lasting bond has little to do with blood; far more to do with the silent conversations, vivid memories or imagined connections that I continue to cultivate to this day. Their presence perseveres and warms my heart. I owe my love of music, animals, photography to the father who partially raised me; my passion for human rights and a global worldview, plus many other traits, to the father I never met. Two men, both long gone but gently held within my heart.

Cornet
I hope that this resonates with many One Worlders.
Much love,
Mei-Mei

Sunday, June 15, 2014

Congratulations to Lisa See!



Dear Lisa, 
Congratulations, and wishing you a wonderful summer book tour! 
Much Love,
Your Friends at One World

Saturday, May 31, 2014

CONFESSIONS OF A WORRYWART by Susan Orlins





Dear One Worlders,

I'm in the midst of reading this wonderful memoir by Susan Orlins (part I to come!).
I'm planning to try to post a review of the book in sections, in large part because there is so much to discuss that I want to try to focus on at least a few of the themes...More to come. Much love, Jennifer

Thursday, May 29, 2014

A Loving Farewell to Maya Angelou





April 4, 1928-May 28, 2014

My heart is aching, aching over the departure of Maya Angelou. We have lost one of the most extraordinary icons of our times, poet, writer, performer, filmmaker, social and political activist, but most of all a beloved, inspiring woman whose words, rich resounding voice in song and word, will guide and comfort young and old alike for generations to come. 

I rejoice in Maya's life, her immense courage to share her dark as well as her illuminating experiences. A woman of infinite dignity, inner strength and sheer beauty. A towering figure, yet so humble and accessible. I had the honor of hearing her speak in person on numerous occasions and of briefly holding her hand as I placed a folder in her care on the Polaris Project, leading anti-modern day slavery organization. My eyes were still veiled with tears from hearing her sing, "This little light of mine..." . I carry her voice within me, her hymn to life and the warmth of her touch will never fade. I love you Maya. 


This little light of mine
I'm going to let it shine
Oh, this little light of mine
I'm going to let it shine
Hallelujah
This little light of mine
I'm going to let it shine
Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine


Ev'ry where I go

I'm going to let it shine
Oh, ev'ry where I go
I'm going to let it shine
Hallelujah
Ev'ry where I go
I'm going to let it shine
Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine



All in my house

I'm going to let it shine
Oh, all in my house
I'm going to let it shine
Hallelujah
All in my house
I'm going to let it shine
Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine



I'm not going to make it shine

I'm just going to let it shine
I'm not going to make it shine
I'm just going to let it shine
Hallelujah
I'm not going to make it shine
I'm just going to let it shine
Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine



Out in the dark

I'm going to let it shine
Oh, out in the dark
I'm going to let it shine
Hallelujah
Out in the dark
I'm going to let it shine
Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine



Who are you lighting the way through darkness for?


http://www.oprah.com/own-super-soul-sunday/Listen-Dr-Maya-Angelou-Recites-Her-Poem-Phenomenal-Woman-Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHvTWvKIPHo

With much love to the one and only, incomparable Maya. May she bring light into your lives as she has into mine for past, and I trust, many decades yet to come.

Mei-Mei

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Thinking of You: A Letter Bouquet for a ONE WORLD CAL G2 Pen Pal in the United Kingdom

Dear One Worlders, Friends and Family,

It's been brought to my attention that one of our CACH British CAL G2 pen pals has been in hospital. It's always nice to have a bit of extra support in life, but especially during hospital stays. I'm writing to ask for your help. If you'd like to contribute a few words for her, during the coming months we'll be collecting letters and cards for her in a Thinking-of-You LETTER BOUQUET. We'll also be creating an "Inspiration Wall" for her to hang up in her hospital room.

She is a lovely teen, and I'm sure that many of you have experienced a hospital stay (and know how unlovely hospitals can feel at times). Once I was so unhappy in a NYC hospital that I tried to escape from hospital with my IV machine still attached!! Unfortunately, the nurses caught me trying to escape by the elevators with my huge IV machine. Before I knew it a team of 6 doctors were staring down at me in bed, shaking their heads gravely. "You are not fit to leave hospital yet!"

Stay tuned for more details about how you can help. And many thanks to CACH, CCI, ICCG, FCC-NYC, and to all of you for help with our Thinking-of-You Letter Bouquet and Inspiration Wall!

Much Love,
Jennifer

Friday, May 23, 2014

Happy Birthday CCI! You're Invited to Help Celebrate....


Happy Birthday CCI! So proud of you :). 
Much Love,
Jennifer & Your One World Family

**************

April 6, 2014


Calling All CCI Members- Be a Part Our New Promo Video!





Calling all CCI members! 

In honor of CCI's 3rd birthday this May, we are making a new promo video featuring our members. One of the amazing things about CCI is the fact that our members are not only from all around China but also they now live all around the world.

If you are interested in being apart of this promo video, please submit a video recording of yourself in a place that includes scenery from where you are currently living. All forms of video recordings are accepted.

in the video you will say: " I was born in: city & province, I now live in: city & state or city & province" 

Please send your videos to chinachildreninternational@gmail.com

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Health Impact of Childhood Bullying Can Last a Lifetime, From Scientific American

I recently read this article and feel that it is important to share it. As adoptees, many of us have experienced harassment and bullying to a greater or lesser degree. I don't think that one should necessarily believe that health issues will invariably ensue, but it is useful to know that there can be a correlation later in life. 

So read as an interesting source of information, but do not freak out! 

Spring has finally arrived in New England. Can't believe that the lilacs are just coming out here whereas they are long since past in Italy. Feel so fortunate to experience to two springs, one of my favorite seasons. The same happens in the fall. 

Love to all,
Mei-Mei



bullying scene


Bruises fade, but stress stays on.
Credit: Helder Almeida via Shutterstock
The following essay is reprinted with permission from The Conversation, an online publication covering the latest research.
It is still not clear how the experience of being bullied in childhood translates into long-lasting health problems. A new US study has found that victims of bullying have high levels of a protein in their bloodstream that is associated with fighting off an infection – even into early adulthood. This finding may help understand further the association between childhood bullying victimisation and poor health outcomes later.The Conversation
Research has consistently shown that young victims of bullying show difficulties including symptoms of anxiety, depression and also conduct problems and psychotic symptoms. These problems related to children’s mental health can persist even after the bullying has stopped, sometimes up until mid-life.
There are some hypotheses that bullying victimization is a form of “toxic stress” that can have an impact on physiological responses to childhood adversity. In turn, these responses may help explain why some victims develop health problems.
Mental and physical health problems are often related and although young children are generally healthy, research has started to show that bullied children tend to become adults with health problems.
One such mechanism is the inflammatory response, measured by the release in the bloodstream of a protein called C-reactive protein (CRP). High levels of CRP is a generic response that indicates that the body is either fighting an infectious agent, reacting to an injury or responding to a chronic condition such as arthritis.
Research has shown that CRP can also be elevated among people who experienced maltreatment by an adult in their childhood. This suggests that the body reacts in a similar way to “toxic stress” as it does to an infection.
Bullying as a ‘toxic stress’
Knowing that bullying is associated with high levels of CRP is important for two reasons. First, it would provide further support that childhood bullying victimization should be considered as a toxic stress alongside other forms of abuse including child maltreatment. Second, this would provide a novel lead for identifying new targets for various types of interventions aimed at reducing problems related to the experience of being bullied in childhood.
The new findings from the longitudinal Great Smoky Mountains Study of 1,420 children in the US has looked at CRP levels in children involved in bullying as victims, bullies and bully-victims (participants who both bully others and were also bullied). The authors, led by William E. Copeland at Duke University Medical Center, tested whether study participants who were bullied between the age of nine and 16 showed high levels of CRP in adolescence, and also later in early adulthood.
Their results indicate that the participants who experienced several exposures to bullying had higher levels of CRP compared to participants who were not involved in bullying – either as victims, bullies or bully-victims.
These associations remained even after taking into account the participants' prior CRP level and variables associated with CRP levels such as body mass index, medication and alcohol use. They also took into account variables linked to being involved in bullying, including maltreatment, family dysfunction, and anxiety disorders.
Lasting into early adulthood
The authors then looked at CRP levels as the study participants entered adulthood. They observed a similar pattern of findings: victims of bullying had higher levels of CRP compared to those who were not involved in bullying. Furthermore, participants who were repeatedly bullied showed the highest levels of CRP.
Surprisingly, participants who bullied others showed the lowest levels of CRP in early adulthood amongst all four groups of children examined in this study. These associations also remained after the researcher controlled for prior CRP, variables associated with CRP levels and variables associated with being involved in bullying.
We already know from previous research that being bullied in childhood “gets under the skin” and can influence other mechanisms in the body involved in the physiological responses to stress, such as the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis. For example, bullied children show a blunted level of cortisol response – a hormone released under stress – when exposed to stress in a laboratory experiment.
study of identical twin pairs where one twin had been bullied but the other not has shown that while non-bullied twins had a normal increase of cortisol after experiencing a social stress laboratory, their bullied co-twins showed a blunted response. And the more severe and frequent the bullying, the lower the cortisol response.
The new Duke research on the inflammatory process adds to a growing body of evidence that demonstrates that we need to move away from the perception that bullying is harmless and part of normal growing up. Instead, bullying should be considered as another form of toxic stress with potentially profound effects on mental and physical health. These effects have been repeatedly observed in childhood and increasingly so in adolescence and in adulthood too.
Louise Arseneault does not work for, consult to, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organization that would benefit from this article, and has no relevant affiliations.
This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/health-impact-of-childhood-bullying-can-last-a-lifetime/?&WT.mc_id=SA_MB_20140521